I was enjoying a beautiful afternoon with my two year old niece at the kid’s playground today. Of course, there were other kids there with their moms and dads. One mom of a small boy and girl struck up a conversation about the weather, kids, etc. It was pleasant enough until she made a comment that really made me think about what we are doing and what we seek. Here’s what she had to say. “We need to raise our daughters to be strong, confident, independent women and our sons to be sensitive, caring men.”
On its face, it seems innocent enough. I just nodded my head and went back to the swings with my niece. Then I thought about the marriage of my grandparents who emigrated from Italy many years ago. Their relationsip ran smoothly according to the gender roles that had developed over generations in the old country. Then I thought about what I have learned about the women of Ukraine and what they seek.
You see that young mom had it backwards. She is attempting to reverse the roles that occur naturally within gender. The women of Ukraine understand this well and are raised to be loving wives and mothers first, and earners second. This is not set in stone. It is just what generations of their culture have developed.
So who has the right idea? Our American culture produces one of the highest divorce rates in the world – nearly 60%. The 2010 census showed that for the first time there are more single adults, than married.
Food for thought, methinks.